by Heidi Hiatt
Batten down the hatches, folks, because my fuse is lit and crackling like a giant sparkler. After an exchange with a relationship expert who feels much the same way, I am compelled to speak out about the slavery many people live in because of improper boundaries with their exes. Let’s dive right in.
You and your boyfriend broke up. You’ve been through a divorce. You dumped the two-faced sociopath who was having unprotected sex with at least three different men yet kept up appearances by acting monogamous with you.
In all of these cases, the other person is now your EX. This means that the relationship with that person has ENDED. This means they have no right to be in your house, in your life, or using your money or possessions—and legally, they might never have had that right in the first place. There are exceptions, such as having children in common, that mean having contact with that person sometimes. But you can choose to handle those exceptions on a strictly business basis and in a neutral location. If they violate your conditions, provide legal consequences.